tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.comments2023-03-25T02:29:56.362-07:00The Nice GuyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-71430745547087634472012-09-23T11:53:12.939-07:002012-09-23T11:53:12.939-07:00I can't believe no one has responded to this m...I can't believe no one has responded to this magnificent post. I used to watch the show before it got ugly (so not for long) and I'm bored today and happen to be watching it now and they keep talking about rebuilding their relationship so I went out and googled what they were going on about and I found your post. You really hit the nail on the head. I hadn't watched TV in years and I moved a few months ago where cable is free with the new place and there are so many of these negative shows it's unreal. Now I want to go back to not watching TV. Another show that is so ugly in it's showcase of family dynamics is "Hardcore Pawn" Those people are so hateful to each other it's just unreal (an extremely sexist to the daughter). Every time they claim to be close after they've just stabbed each other in the back and jumped up and down on the knife, it makes me want to puke. I didn't watch that long either but even the commercials for it disgust me.<br /><br />My dad was the same way as yours. He did go to my brother's wedding but he "faked" a panic attack so the attention was all on him. He couldn't stop talking about how he didn't like the family of the woman my brother was marrying, etc. He is just a selfish person and actually acts like a child most of the time. I stopped talking to him after that simply because I just don't have the emotional reserves or the patience to deal with a grown man who acts like a child. I've met many dads, young and old who behave that way. They are a real emotional burden to their families instead of being a positive person in their family's lives. My mom was a very independent person so to see my dad acting like a child all the time... yeah, I don't think so. <br /><br />But I do recall seeing this guy give half his liver to save his infant daughter and when something went wrong and they thought the liver transplant didn't work, he cried like a baby... That's a dad. <br /><br />The liver did work by the way, they just had a suture come undone and it was bleeding out so they fixed it and she was fine. I also saw this guy in Thailand I believe who had a son with some really bad facial tumors and I loved watching the way he interacted with him and how much he cared about his child. You could tell he wanted nothing but the best for him. <br /><br />I'll also add this, I don't understand why parents want to be their kids best friend. I think that's a down grade from the awesomeness that is the parent/child relationship. The reality is, that the parent/child relationship also allows for honesty and your child should still want to tell you things if you have a good parent/child relationship. But to reduce it to friendship... bah! Any ole stranger can become your child's friend. What you have as a parent can not be topped!<br /><br />Thanks again for this fantastic post and I hope your son gets that pink car. :) <br /><br />Cheers!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04408754260457275338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-73784285550636721042012-06-17T15:12:59.979-07:002012-06-17T15:12:59.979-07:00I respect your actions it is a sign of intelligenc...I respect your actions it is a sign of intelligence to change stances. I apologize for any offense I may have caused.Spokane Realtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04898947557775325529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-491914649945961492012-06-16T11:51:47.986-07:002012-06-16T11:51:47.986-07:00Excellent post. Thank you so much for writing this...Excellent post. Thank you so much for writing this and sharing it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-67071077116198884832012-06-15T21:08:46.127-07:002012-06-15T21:08:46.127-07:00you are a freaking legend Justin.you are a freaking legend Justin.tpr2https://www.blogger.com/profile/12911867372404713242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-2531164765798655392012-06-15T20:15:54.061-07:002012-06-15T20:15:54.061-07:00Good words Justin, glad to read your story. I also...Good words Justin, glad to read your story. I also am a man of faith though I may have a different take on it. When I read your profile I saw it mentioned faith and would have mentioned something but honestly it I was limiting my engagement with you as I have found these things tend to not be fruitful. I thought you had possible good intentions, but the problem was that you were verbally assaulting me for simply reporting the facts that those people stole from me, and after I offered them to make it right and they didn't I posted their names for the rest of the community. <br /><br />As the scriptures say you shall surely rebuke your brother and not suffer sin upon him. Rev says God does record every sin and that everyone shall confess. The gospel says repent for the kingdom is near. There are also laws in the Bible about stealing. Messiah did expose sin publicly that is why they wanted to kill him because how dare he openly expose the sins of the religious leaders of the community before everyone. He was right and they were in the wrong, but he said they hated the light because it revealed their dark deeds. <br /><br />Stealing from people behind closed doors and then acting like their friends is wicked and when I shined the lights on the people who wouldn't repent and finish the mission they took the eaves for, then I let the community know. The blood of Christ is for those who repent not everyone. You have to confess your sins as it says and then he can heal you. <br /><br />I am torn about whether I should remove the names or not. The reason is this. If someone didn't repent and still stealing from other people which for many of them I verified they were stealing on other recent missions. Then they are harming others. Like a watchman on the wall who warns and protects the people. I also feel compelled to not only call out the people stealing but also to the community of people who are being honest. "For what good deed do you stone me?" this is a question Messiah asked because the people who wanted to kill him were not justified, he had done nothing wrong but revealed the lies of pharisees and those who were wrong. <br /><br />I prayed about you that Elohim (God) would restrain you and be a shield for me as I was standing for what is right. I am humbled by your repentance and appreciate you took it upon yourself to help the others. (this site was for a client though so the goal was to raise awareness, and get more unique users to the site so tons of comments from you wasn't quite the goal). That being said I believe your heart was in the right place. My problem is that I feel it is the right thing to do so that they would stop stealing and repent it isn't about the missions alone. I wrote a post called cleaning up the streets of Empire Avenue where I feel the community needs to police it so it remains a place where honest people can do missions. I will think about it during my sabbath and see what I shall do. May God bless you and teach us all righteous judgement concerning this matter.Spokane Realtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04898947557775325529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-73891802764716040992012-06-15T18:13:17.337-07:002012-06-15T18:13:17.337-07:00Love the story. Went to post shout out but am new...Love the story. Went to post shout out but am new to EA and couldn't figure out how to post shout out. Then went to go back to mission and found that it was archived. Im a Peter fan and like him sometimes stumble and fall.tcherewkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02825773696784083326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-79259942055598285102012-06-15T17:50:10.338-07:002012-06-15T17:50:10.338-07:00Angie says to read the post.Angie says to read the post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18329994022832397916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-24613224696938102512012-06-15T14:43:51.470-07:002012-06-15T14:43:51.470-07:00I'm not afraid to speak up in defense of other...I'm not afraid to speak up in defense of others. I just try to be clear in my mind whether I'm doing it for the other person or whether it's my own stuff that has gotten me riled up. <br /><br />It's easy in the hit and run world of social media for people to thoughtlessly post a rude comment that hits a nerve. You might be warranted to respond in either case but I like to be aware whether I'm really acting on behalf of a friend (or anyone being attacked) or whether I simply think this person is a jerk and I'm pissed off.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965005623656692769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-79564505573370115932011-12-20T21:20:59.750-08:002011-12-20T21:20:59.750-08:00Nice rant, Justin. Personally, I believe people a...Nice rant, Justin. Personally, I believe people are entitled to their opinions and to stating them. However, I most certainly do not have to agree with them, listen to them or read them.<br /><br />People who go on and on day after day as you mentioned above, are simply deleted. <br /><br />My interest is connecting with people who are interested in stimulating positive conversations or who are seeking solutions. Naysayers need not apply!Janet Callawayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00288246397574140815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-47356116871826080402011-11-06T17:36:57.618-08:002011-11-06T17:36:57.618-08:00Well said, Primo. Live, love and laugh today for t...Well said, Primo. Live, love and laugh today for tomorrow is not promised. Cast your cares upon the Lord for He cares for you! Love ya!heidihazehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09397256009975670596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-48614096852877753762011-10-23T16:31:26.983-07:002011-10-23T16:31:26.983-07:00Dan- That's the part that always stumped me.....Dan- That's the part that always stumped me... Why no one ever stood up for me. Alas, that was then and this is now. I just know that because no one ever stood up for me, I vow to never let that happen if I ever witness the same thing happening.<br /><br />Bettie Mae- Thank you for the kind words. I wish that those events hadn't happened. However being the eternal optimist, I realize I went through those things and made it out alive to help others who might be in the same boat. I also know what isolation being the receiver is like so I know how to recognize it and then make sure I stop it for others when I realize it's happening.<br /><br />Vanita- glad to hear you made it out alive as well. I'm heading over to look at that blog now!!! What is your blog btw?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-69229025748060160342011-10-23T13:40:35.620-07:002011-10-23T13:40:35.620-07:00Justin, This was a great and touching post. I feel...Justin, This was a great and touching post. I feel your pain in this because I went through it as a teen. I'd like to share with you this link from a fellow blogger. She has resources listed about bulling and organizations standing up against bullying. Her daughter also suffered from extreme bullying. http://somanyways.net/bullying-sitespagesinfo/#.TqR62ZxSnbA <br />Thanks for sharing this post and for the twitter follow.vanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06634748075646866112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-46195391926074320972011-10-12T14:14:03.451-07:002011-10-12T14:14:03.451-07:00wow!!! excellent post!!! i hate that you had to en...wow!!! excellent post!!! i hate that you had to endure such torment (both emotionally and physically) without anyone steppin up for ya. but you've grown into a greater man than any of those bullys could ever even begin to see themselves as. AND you've learned values and the importance of passing them along to your kids. YOU really ARE a nice guy!!!gramma bettie mae turleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850679391791836810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-22463631668378003012011-10-05T22:34:43.707-07:002011-10-05T22:34:43.707-07:00Wow Justin, thank you for continuing the conversat...Wow Justin, thank you for continuing the conversation here. So powerful. I can only imagine what it feels like to you to get that all out.<br /><br />The part that struck the greatest chord:<br /><br />I know that if someone just once would have stood up for me, I may have found the ability to stand up for myself.Danoahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04656215047977189598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-81694479098330190342011-09-10T22:55:21.902-07:002011-09-10T22:55:21.902-07:00This story just tears my heart in half...:-( I p...This story just tears my heart in half...:-( I pray she holds on to your words and that she has someone in her life she can turn to who will not abuse her in this way.<br /><br />We were foster parents for several years - infants only. Drug abused, physically abused, neglected, everything. And most of the time they went back to their biological families. All these babies wanted was someone to feed them, keep them warm and clean, and love them. And even though they probably won't ever know who we were or any specifics about their time with us, I just hold onto believing that they WILL remember that feeling of a time when someone did love them & care for them. And that's my prayer for this little girl. <br /><br />You did what you could, where you were. That's what God asks of us. You did good. :-)Pam Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685321349685512517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-8083463951693500742011-09-03T21:06:05.725-07:002011-09-03T21:06:05.725-07:00Valerie,
Thank you for your response!
While I ...Valerie,<br /><br />Thank you for your response! <br /><br />While I dislike war myself, I also understand that sometimes making alliances with other countries who don't embrace freedom and democracy is a losing battle. I don't like war, I don't like the carnage and collateral damage it causes. However, I do believe with every ounce of my being that if we did not respond after 9/11, it would have opened the flood gates for more terrorist attacks.<br /><br />There is also no doubt in my mind that both Iraq, Iran, and Afghanistan governments have aided Al Queda, Taliban, and other terrorist organizations. Saddam proved time and again he was a tyrant and his sons were even scarier than he was. Ridding Iraq of him and his sons was a service to the world as a whole. Still having troops there to help them establish a new government was always part of the deal.<br /><br />On another note, While I support our troops 100%, I don't support the politicians making the decisions for them. I don't think the house or the senate or even the white house has had the livelihood and safety of the troops at the forefront of their mind for a long time. I saw all too often battle equipment that was long past it's years and many soldiers going out and spending their own money on safety equipment.<br /><br />I guess my biggest beef is that while people go out and party, they don't take the time to realize WHY they have an extended weekend. For the past three years, on Memorial Day, 9/11, and Veterans Day, I've attended ceremonies at the local Veterans Cemetary. Spending the say with people who have lost loved ones and coming back home with a heavy heart. Only to log into Facebook and see people posting about how wasted they were but not once mention the sacrifice that had been given by those who served. My other beef is with people who live in the US, but don't follow the customs of standing and being respectful during the National Anthem.<br /><br />I am fluent in both Spanish and English. My wife and I have plans to travel to Europe in the next couple years and so I've already ordered Rosetta Stone to learn the languages of the countries I'm visiting. I don't expect them to cater to me because I am the foreigner. If I choose to arrive to that country, it's common courtesy to follow their customs and traditions. And because of that, I can only ask that those coming to reap the rewards of living in this country can follow the same thought process.<br /><br />I want to thank you for VOTING! Of all the rights that we have as Americans, I think it is one of the most awesome ones to have. People who don't exercise that right don't have a right to complain as well.<br /><br />I love what you said in the last paragraph about peace and collaboration and spreading the positive aspects of America. Thank you for being a great citizen of this nation. Have a great night and thank you for stopping by!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-42881708483869497842011-09-03T19:56:53.735-07:002011-09-03T19:56:53.735-07:00Dear Mr. Nice Guy,
As a soldier, your feelings, b...Dear Mr. Nice Guy,<br /><br />As a soldier, your feelings, beliefs and reasoning cannot be disputed and are valid. I salute you for stating them.<br /><br />As a person who thoughtfully declined to be a part of our armed services, I still vote, I work as a volunteer at hospitals, and pray for those who put themselves in harms way for what they believe is protecting their country and its way of life. I have had several of them in my extended family.<br /><br />What I do not believe in is war and violence, at the expense of human life. While I fully understand that life contains violence, I do not celebrate it and do not feel that your putting your life on the line for me is the best way to express the interests of America, nor to save life outside of the United States.<br /><br />Part of this belief system stems from having lived my adult life involved in several different cultures - some of them considered the 'enemy'. War is a reflection of government, and I do not believe that my government always reflects our people. So I will continue to vote, participate in community, and pray that the lives of soldiers, agents and citizens working in other countries will be safe.<br /><br />I will also continue to create a culture of peace and collaboration with citizens of other countries in the hopes that those relationships will strengthen and spread the positive aspects of America.<br /><br />I solute you and thank you for your sacrifices in our country's behalf.Valerie Iravanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18410283061503901778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-70032834331585403092011-09-02T08:50:44.563-07:002011-09-02T08:50:44.563-07:00Thank you for the comment Steve!
As an adult who ...Thank you for the comment Steve!<br /><br />As an adult who has found the ability to stand up for myself after being bullied for so many years, I can empathize with people (both children and adults) who cannot or don't know how to stand up for themselves. It's just such a shame that the source of the bullying for this little girl was from her mommy. That's one of the people who this little girl should be able to turn to for EVERYTHING. Instead, this little girl might turn to other undesirables for counsel later in life that may lead to really bad situations.<br /><br />I don't think the mom or dad have any idea about the implications of their actions. Let's all hope and pray that this little girl doesn't end up being the basis for a lifetime special movie in 20 years.<br /><br />I'm making a pledge today to stand up for every underdog, every person being bullied, every person being taken advantage of. I will NOT stand back and let it happen. At the risk of my own safety, I will show bullies that their actions will NOT be tolerated anymore!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-8630326356689163082011-09-02T08:46:54.174-07:002011-09-02T08:46:54.174-07:00Kory,
I know you and Grant would have both stood ...Kory,<br /><br />I know you and Grant would have both stood by me. I know the caliber of people that I surround myself with. You all are upstanding people who do the right thing even when it may not be popular among the crowd. I'm lucky to have known you most of my life and call you and your husband friends :)<br /><br />I know the love that you have for your son (and soon to be 2nd child). I know that you and I could never imagine saying such things to our kids. Let's hope that we keep teaching our kids how to be great people and do the right thing. Maybe we can change a generation from making the same mistakes!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-90721445761693690052011-09-02T08:42:49.742-07:002011-09-02T08:42:49.742-07:00Suzanne,
My heart is still breaking for that litt...Suzanne,<br /><br />My heart is still breaking for that little girl. I can only hope that her mom and dad will one day realize that verbal/mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. verba/mental/physical abuse has no purpose around or directed at children. They are gentle little kids who need protection from the outside world. The last thing they need is that violence from the people who are supposed to protect them. My heart aches for that poor little girl and I hope with all my heart that me stepping in and saying something didn't have repercussions at her house :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-22133034333645772782011-09-02T06:32:47.717-07:002011-09-02T06:32:47.717-07:00Hi Justin,
Thanks for sharing your story... it mu...Hi Justin,<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story... it must have been gut wrenching to watch this poor child be humiliated and embarrassed by her own mother in public. I can only imagine what happens to her behind closed doors. <br /><br />As one who was picked on when I was younger, like yourself, I know all too well what that feels like but to have it done by your own parent is just incredible. <br /><br />All the best,<br />Steve OThe Fantasy Football Hubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06856844610944454759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-30975219279830005912011-09-01T21:15:37.093-07:002011-09-01T21:15:37.093-07:00How horrible JD. I wish I was there to witness it ...How horrible JD. I wish I was there to witness it too because I would have totally stood by your side and backed up you, and the little girl. :(Korndoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05490399252983849856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-4605475664552962492011-09-01T20:55:43.780-07:002011-09-01T20:55:43.780-07:00omg - my heart is breaking for that little girl. W...omg - my heart is breaking for that little girl. What a tough situation to be in for you, especially with those unsupporting idiots in that store. I love what you said to her. She will remember that forever. And hopefully it will encourage her to put an end to that abuse. God bless you!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04281832882420556502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-54172667873423098762011-08-29T11:53:58.243-07:002011-08-29T11:53:58.243-07:00Hola Janet!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE your idea about the ...Hola Janet!<br /><br />I LOVE LOVE LOVE your idea about the money! I will for sure start doing that!<br /><br />I love the concept of doing it anonymously as well. Even though I may curse like a sailor sometimes, I was introduced to church around the 7th grade and learned a lot. A LOT about brotherly love, compassion, giving, random acts of kindness, loving your enemy, and so on. The piece I loved most was in Luke. It spoke about not letting the right hand know what the left was doing. Meaning that if you give or donate or do a random act of kindness, don't showboat. Those who receive the most from random giving and donations are the ones who do it just because they know it's a good thing to do.<br /><br />I've always loved the concept of "Living Aloha". When I went to Pearl Harbor in 01 and 03 when I was in the Navy, I saw a land that wasn't rushed, wasn't rude, was BEYOND hospitable, and just an overall lovely place to be. On my first visit, a couple (probably in late 40's or early 50's) saw me wandering around and obviously knew I was a visiting sailor. They stopped and offered to show me around the island. for three days they took me all over. A total stranger, and they gave in to the whim of showing someone the island they loved.<br /><br />In an Ideal world, Hawaii will be the place I call home sooner rather than later!<br /><br />I'll also go look at Marcus' blog. I'm intrigued! Thanks for sharing Janet! Keep being awesome!<br /><br />JustinAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7509586252315319686.post-9237866208178794062011-08-29T11:46:29.750-07:002011-08-29T11:46:29.750-07:00Hi Betsy, I didn't realize I had a comment! ...Hi Betsy, I didn't realize I had a comment! So sorry for not responding right away!<br /><br />I totally think that it's time to start decorating for Christmas! <br /><br />I'm the same way when driving. It's just so much easier to leave ten mins earlier than normal, hop in the slow lane and keep it on cruise control. I'd rather get there late than never. and I also understand that sometimes, no matter how much planning I do, Mr. Murphy will toss a wrench in somewhere. <br /><br />However, I don't take the frustrations out on others. They didn't cause the problem right? Instead, hand out smiles and hope that my cheerfulness might spread to those that need it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13951001811198781245noreply@blogger.com